Dear Future Husband,
I’ve been thinking a lot about you lately. I think it’s easy
for my mind to wander to thoughts of you as I see so many of my good friends
getting married, celebrating anniversaries, and having babies. I look forward
to the day when I get to share those moments with you. There are a few things
that I want you to know, and a few promises that I want to make to you now. So,
read on.
First of all, I may have you pretty convinced that I am
perfect. ;) I assure you that I am not. I have made a lot of mistakes in my life
and although I haven’t been perfect, I can tell you that I have learned a lot
of lessons that have made me a stronger woman. With that being said, I want you
to know that I don’t expect you to be perfect; however, with every mistake and
wrong turn I hope that you took what you needed from the experiences and became
a better man. I want us to be perfectly imperfect together. I hope that you
have lived, I mean really lived, because even though we will have a lot of life
to enjoy together…I want you to have many memories that you get to look back
on. I want to hear all of your stories and become familiar with your
adventures.
Second, I happen to be a happy person overall…but I will
have bad days. Let me have them. I will get back to myself without too much
delay, but for the moment I may just need to be angry, sad, or a bit crazy. I
promise to let you have your space to deal with your stuff as well. I have
worked hard at giving myself permission to just feel whatever I’m feeling in
that moment and I hope that you will honor that for me, as I will for you.
Third, I have a lot of crazy ideas and ambitions. As in…I am
seriously dedicated to owning an island someday with my cousin. Support me.
Celebrate all of my successes with me, and more importantly, celebrate all of
my failures as well. Don’t let me give up on me. Inspire me and let me inspire you. Be my biggest cheerleader. Let
me fall on my face, but always be there to pick me up. I promise to do the same
for you. I want you to dream big, and know that every step of the way I will be
there as your biggest fan. I want to create a partnership with you! Do crazy things, be spontaneous, don’t be too serious,
be fearless, and dedicated to the life you’ve always dreamed of – and I will do
the same.
Fourth, play with our kids. I’m completely okay if you
choose to be a bigger kid than them and show them how it’s done. Laugh. Cry. Risk. Show them the
balance between having a good time and still creating greatness. Help me
instill a respect for those around them, a soft spot for those that need
something we may be able to offer, trust in the greater good of humanity, and
acceptance of those that seem completely different from them. Tell them every
day that they are amazing, talented, and loved. I want them to know that they
can conquer the world.
Fifth, I ask that you dedicate yourself to learning and
growing. I don’t care what you are learning about…well as long as it is moral, ethical,
and legal…as long as you are learning. I want you to be passionate about
becoming the best man that you can be…for you. I am very aware of the fact that
I will receive the benefits of this, and that’s why I’m clear that it has to be
for you. I will do the same. I will constantly work on being the woman that you
deserve, and educating myself in ways that allows me to be the best version of
myself for us and for our family.
Sixth, don’t be afraid to tell me anything. I may not always
react in the most graceful way, but give me time. I am always on your side and
will come around eventually. Tell me your secrets and I will tell you mine. Be
open with me, give me feedback that you think I need (especially when I seem to
be moving in a direction opposite of where I say I want to go), and allow me to
reciprocate. I want you to know the darkest parts of me, so that there is no
doubt that you know the real me. In addition, I want to know you. All of you.
Finally, some promises I know I need to make to you now and
I ask that you hold me to these. I promise not to punish you for the things in
my life that you aren’t responsible for. I promise not to blame you for the
hurt that others have caused, and I will do my best every day to just leave it
where it belongs…in the past. I promise to love you, even on the days when
liking you may seem difficult. I promise to forgive. I promise to let you be the man in our house,
and protect and provide for our family. I promise to be loyal, honest,
vulnerable, trusting, and faithful in all aspects of our relationship. I promise to give you the space you may need to figure stuff out. I promise to fight
every single day for our relationship, as I would much rather fight for you
than against you. I promise to respect and honor you. I promise to pray with you and for you. I promise to let you be
my Knight in Shining Armor, because I am sure that you won’t let me down.
We have so much to look forward to. I know that our lives
are going to be full of adventures, and the journey is going to be one that our
grandchildren will appreciate. In the meantime, be good to yourself.
I will see you soon…
Michelle
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